She Wanted a Baby. Her Body Said No.
Vaginismus is an involuntary tightening of the pelvic floor that can make vaginal penetration painful or impossible, even when a woman genuinely wants intercourse. For women trying to conceive, especially those with histories of sexual trauma, pressure to "just relax" or push through painful sex can reinforce the fear-pain-guarding cycle.
The Psychology of OnlyFans Gangbangs
When British OnlyFans creator Lily Phillips became internationally known for highly publicized, large-scale sexual events involving many male participants, the Internet predictably divided itself into familiar camps. Some called it empowerment while others called it exploitation. Some treated it as a spectacle while others asked whether a woman who participates voluntarily in extreme sexual experiences can genuinely enjoy them.
The 50/50 Myth: Why Equal Doesn't Mean Doing the Same Things
Many couples fight about chores, but the real issue is usually fairness and feeling unseen. Splitting every task exactly in half tends to backfire, because both partners keep score and every responsibility stays psychologically shared. A better approach is equal ownership rather than identical tasks: each partner fully owns specific responsibilities, which removes reminding and supervising and reduces resentment.
Why Group Therapy May Be the Most Powerful Therapy You've Never Considered
Most people assume healing happens one-on-one with a therapist, but many struggles tied to relationships, trust, rejection, and connection are best explored with others. Interpersonal group psychotherapy uses the real relationships that form between group members as the engine for change.
Can Couples Get "In Sync" Sexually?
Sex therapists have traditionally treated sexual difficulties by focusing on the individual or on the quality of the relationship. Researcher Marieke Dewitte's work on sexual synchrony offers a third lens: arousal during partnered sex unfolds between two people, not within one. Synchrony is not about matching desire or timing perfectly. It is about responsiveness, noticing where a partner is and adjusting. The most satisfying couples move flexibly in and out of synchrony, balancing attunement to a partner with attention to their own sensations.
Three Women, Decades of SSRIs, and One Question: Can Early Antidepressant Use Affect Orgasm for Life?
A sex therapist consulted sexual medicine physician Dr. Irwin Goldstein about three women who have never experienced orgasm despite stable mental health, strong relationships, and a positive view of sexuality. What they shared was decades of SSRI use that began in childhood or adolescence. One hypothesis discussed is that long-term SSRI exposure may disrupt the afferent nerve pathways that carry the sensory information needed to reach orgasm, pointing to insufficient neurological excitation rather than psychological inhibition. This remains a clinical hypothesis, not established science, but it suggests a broader lens for assessing lifelong anorgasmia.
Beyond Dysfunction: Why Sexual Pleasure Deserves a Central Role in Therapy
Sex therapy has historically centered on treating sexual dysfunction, with less attention paid to the nuanced experience of sexual pleasure. New research and the World Health Organization's definition of sexual health make a strong case for placing pleasure at the center of clinical practice. Sexual pleasure is multidimensional, spanning physical sensation, psychological meaning, and relational connection, and reframing it as part of treatment can support sexual confidence and satisfaction even when dysfunction is present.
Why Many Survivors Never Identify Their Experiences as Sexual Victimization
Many survivors of sexual victimization never label their experiences as abuse. Not because the harm wasn't real, but because internalized rape myths, cultural biases, and narrow societal definitions of assault create powerful psychological barriers to recognition. Factors including racialized stereotypes, gender role conditioning, and benevolent sexism further obscure the reality of victimization for diverse populations. Healing begins in the therapeutic space, where survivors can name their experiences and dismantle the cultural myths that have shaped their understanding of self.
Sedona: A Nervous System-Informed Family Retreat for Wellbeing
For years I have been attending retreats, clinical training workshops, and traveling freestyle in all ways possible. Given my experience in cultivating healing experiences as a therapist and my love for travel, I planned a 7-day wellness retreat for my family this year in Sedona, Arizona.
From Sexual Distress to Sexual Satisfaction: MendEd Courses Transform Sex Therapy
MendEd is a clinically developed online course platform created by sex therapist Kimberly Keiser to extend therapy into everyday life through structured psychoeducation, somatic exercises, and skill-building.
The courses integrate sex therapy and trauma therapy, making them effective as a standalone resource or as a complement to work with any therapist.
The science-based framework guides individuals from awareness through skill-building to embodied change, addressing issues like low desire, painful sex, and sexual trauma.
AASECT Clinical Supervision: Integrating Trauma, Sexual Health, and Neuroscience
Kimberly Keiser offers AASECT clinical supervision that integrates trauma, sexual health, and neuroscience into a holistic, science-backed framework.
Supervision covers EMDR, Internal Family Systems, Polyvagal Theory, somatic therapies, and relational dynamics, building both technical skill and therapeutic identity.
Whether you are pursuing AASECT certification or deepening your expertise, this supervision equips you to work confidently with complex trauma and sexual health presentations.
How to Choose a Sex Therapist
Not all therapists are trained in sexual health - look for an AASECT-certified sex therapist with a licensed mental health background.
The best sex therapists are trauma-informed, specialize in your specific concern, and follow strict ethical standards (no sexual touch or demonstrations).
Credentials matter, but so does therapeutic fit - you should feel safe, respected, and hopeful after your sessions.
How Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy Supports Lasting Change in Couples Counseling
One of the most transformative and deeply integrative modalities we employ in relational work is Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. This compassionate, non-pathologizing framework serves as a powerful catalyst for deeper understanding, enhanced emotional safety, and long-term healing within partnerships.
Now Offering Telehealth Therapy Across New York State & NYC
I’m excited to share that I am now offering telehealth psychotherapy and sex therapy to clients throughout New York State, with a primary focus on New York City. This allows individuals and couples NYC and the surrounding regions to access highly specialized, research-informed care from the privacy and convenience of home
Creating Sexual Desire In Long-Term Relationships
I recently attended the AASECT 2024 annual conference in St. Louis, MO as an exhibitor for MendEd.
Education and Therapy: Resources from Kimberly Keiser to Improve Your Mental and Intimate Health
Find support and education for the sexual dysfunctions you’re experiencing with MendEd and other resources by Kimberly Keiser.
Introducing Low-Cost Mental Health & Sex Therapy Sessions for South Dakotans
We’re proud to introduce our Internship Program, which allows us to provide therapy on a sliding scale for those without health insurance or financial means.
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How to Use EMDR for Tele-Health Therapy [Practice 11]
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy is useful and effective to help people process and heal from current or past traumatic experiences — and it can be done virtually! Here’s why and how we are using EMDR therapy in our tele-health counseling sessions.
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